It’s Complicated: Knitting for Family Is the Worst

If you started reading this blog because you thought I was going to talk about how terrible and undeserving of my knitting my family is, I’m sorry to disappoint you. I love my family. They’ve always been overwhelmingly supportive of all my creative endeavors, and, over the years, they’ve been excited and thankful for the many gifts I’ve made them. Knitting gifts for them is undoubtedly rewarding. So if you’re confused as to why I say that knitting for my family is the worst, it really boils down to one factor: me.

The family knitting struggle is real. Image via Getty Images.

The family knitting struggle is real. | Image via Getty Images.

Gift giving has always been an internal struggle for me—finding the perfect gift to convey all the feelings I have for any person can be hard, but when it comes to family, it can be downright maddening. This is part of the reason I became a maker. Putting time and effort into something handmade has always felt far more meaningful than buying something. So while I thought learning to knit would up my gift-making game, it’s been more of a curse than a blessing. Maybe it’s just me, but making knitted gifts for my family always raises a few problems…

1) Who gets a gift first?

There are only so many knittable hours in a year, so I have to prioritize which members of the family will get knitted gifts and when. While this awesome and handy chart is definitely helping me decide who’s knit-worthy, the timeline of when everyone will get their gifts is another story.


2) What if I’m not sure what size to make?

I’ll admit that maybe I should be more in the loop with my family so that I’d know exactly what size knitted garment to make for each of them, but if we’re being honest, I can hardly get my own sizing right most of the time. I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s easier (and definitely safer) to stick to accessories, like any of the knits from Interweave Knits Gifts 2018And yet, I still find myself constantly fighting the urge to cast-on a sweater every time.


3) What if their style preferences have changed?

There’s always a person in the family who is going through yet another phase in their wardrobe (if you have anyone in high school on your gift list, you know what I’m talking about). I’ve lost countless hours trying to find patterns that compliment a family member’s current look, but trust me, it’s a trap. Tastes can change in the time between casting on and a binding off, so as tempting to as it is to try to knit to a style, it’s always better to stick to evergreen staple knits for gifts. I’ve started keeping pattern collections that feature timeless knits, like 100 Knits, handy for this reason!


I will probably always find knitting for my family difficult, but I’ll never stop making for them. Even if it is the worst, showing my love is worth it in the end.

Happy knitting!


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